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Sex and the Arab World

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A jin? A goddamn jin? Are you f*cking kidding me? Someone needs to take this innocent little girl out of her parents’ house and give her to social services ASA-freakin-P!

Not shocked enough? Yesterday I read an article that outraged me even further:

A Jordanian man fatally shot his 17-year-old daughter whom he suspected of having sex despite a medical exam that proved her chastity, an official said Thursday.

A state forensic pathologist who works at the National Institute of Forensic Medicine in Amman, where an autopsy was performed, said in a phone interview that the girl had run away from home several times for unknown reasons.

Weeks ago, the girl had returned home from a family protection clinic after doctors had vouched for her virginity and the father had signed a pledge not to harm her, the pathologist said on condition of anonymity due to the sensitive nature of the case.

The father shot the girl four times in the head Tuesday. On Wednesday, an autopsy showed “she was still a virgin,” the pathologist said.

Interesting. Perhaps if she had entered into a mutaa marriage her virginity wouldn’t have been such an issue

They met one afternoon in May at the house he shares with his wife, in the room where he accepts visitors seeking his religious counsel. He had a proposal. Would Ali be his temporary wife? He would pay her 5,000 Iraqi dinars upfront — about $4 — in addition to her monthly expenses. About twice a week over the next eight months, he would summon her to a house he would rent. [...]

“It was designed as a humanitarian help for women,” said Mahdi al-Shog, a Shiite cleric.

According to Shiite religious law, a mutaa relationship can last for a few minutes or several years. A man can have an unlimited number of mutaa wives and a permanent wife at the same time. A woman can have only one husband at a time, permanent or temporary. No written contract or official ceremony is required in a mutaa. When the time limit ends, the man and woman go their separate ways with none of the messiness of a regular divorce.

The nerve – “humanitarian help”? How about religiously sanctioned prostitution / economic exploitation? Yeah that sounds about right. But hey, who can blame them? With Viagra and dildos being illegal in Kuwait – how else are horny men supposed to spice up their sex lives?

National Guards assigned to work at the Ministry of Information have arrested an unidentified employee working for KTV’s Channel One for possessing sex boosting pills for women, sex toys including vibrators, Viagra and wireless devices, reports Al-Anba daily. A well-informed source told the daily the suspect looked confused when he approached the gate which aroused suspicion of the guards and this led to a thorough search of the vehicle. During interrogation he admitted to selling these products among his colleagues at work.

I would argue that sex-education is the answer, but then again people like Sheikh Youssef al-Badri know better

THE Arab world’s first Muslim sexologist is breaking boundaries with a sex education TV show that has taken the Middle East by storm.

Dr Heba Kotb, 39, devotes Serious Talk, broadcast weekly on the independent Egyptian satellite channel Al Mehwar, to answering intimate sexual questions posed by curious young Arab men and women. [...]

Her show, the first of its kind in a region where sex education is rare, has provoked strong reactions. After each episode Kotb receives more than 70,000 text messages and e-mails from viewers.

Her critics say her programme is too explicit. Sheikh Youssef al-Badri, a radical Islamic cleric, said her show “invades the privacy of our bedrooms” and “increases the number of sex perverts”.

The fact is this: Ignoring, suppressing, or only conservatively and briefly touching upon the subject of sex is doing the Arab world a great disservice. Not only is it ruining families and marriages (and thus destabilizing the most basic of social structures), but it’s also letting perpetrators of sexual assualt get away with crimes against humanity while reeking a disturbing and unbearable amount of punishment / oppression upon abuse victims.

It’s evident that no government or religious institution in the Arab world is willing, prepared, or able to take on the subject of sex with its citizens in any substantial way. Therefore, it’s up to us – ordinary Arabs – to initiate and facilitate a candid (and continuous) discussion about sex amongst ourselves until it is no longer considered taboo, and can be dealt with in a manner consistent with the individual and inalienable rights of all human beings.

Despite the negative comments that many Anti-Arab / Muslim commentators may post in response to this KABOBpost, can the Arab and Arab-American fans of KABOBfest have a discussion about this issue?

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11 Responses to “Sex and the Arab World”

  1. Anti-Arab / Muslim commentators may post in response to this KABOBpost,

    I don’t consider myself anti-Arab or anti-Muslim, although no doubt many here would because I have no problem with Israel as a Jewish state (especially since there are 22 Arab states).

    Having said that, I think your idea is great and long necessary.

    I wish you luck and I hope you can successfully bring those ideas – safely – back to the Middle East.

    Best of luck.

    Posted by Anonymous | January 31, 2007, 10:48 am
  2. I should add – and I hope this is taken in the spirit of which it is posted (totally nonconfrontational on noncondescending) – that societies and cultures neglect this kind of thing at their own peril.

    No one wants outsiders to discuss/criticize the major issues of their own community – I understand.

    But there are glaring issues here that must be resolved there do not appear to be any easy solutions.

    Dialogue is important, but more so, so is bravery – because the forces that would seek to maintain the status quo are both powerful and afraid – and that is a dangerous combination.

    Again, good luck – brave post. Congratulations.

    Posted by Anonymous | January 31, 2007, 10:58 am
  3. Anonymous,

    Thanks for your comments. When I mentioned that “anti-Arab / Muslim commentators may post in response to this KABOBpost” – I wasn’t talking about those who may disagree with me politically on issues concerning Israel/Palestine (or other).

    Rather, I meant those select few individuals (ie – roy, programmer craig, etc) who tend to leave comments that aren’t aimed at discussing posts in an intelligent manner, but to insult and make fun of Arabs & Muslims in general.

    So please continue to post your thoughts. Regardless of what they are – when put forth in a respectful way, for the sake of dialogue they’re always welcome…

    Posted by Nadeem | January 31, 2007, 11:14 am
  4. Nadeem…

    Can you explain what in the world that video is about?

    Were those things actually pulled out of a little girl? Or is it all just a farce?

    And why isn’t anyone suspicious of the parents?

    Forgive me if I’m being slow, here, but I think the fact that I’m so disturbed is inhibiting my mental function right now.

    Posted by Anonymous | January 31, 2007, 12:25 pm
  5. The clip is from a popular show on LBC – a lebanese television station. The guest is a Saudi – sheikh I think. In any case, he’s talking about the existance if Jins (a jin is like a ghost or spirit) and how they can possess humans… like the exorcist. In Islam, jins exist.

    In any case, he’s saying that a jin took over the body of a little girl. He was called in to perform some sort of religious exorcism (of sorts) to help the girl. When he was there… these long ropes or strings started coming out of her vagina. Also, little hateful notes were found in her vagina.

    He believes that its from a jin.

    I think that common sense would tell us that some sick bastard is molesting this poor child.

    It’s insane that they would believe such bullshit – no?

    Posted by Nadeem | January 31, 2007, 12:50 pm
  6. I belive in Jin, but not in that they may possess humans.
    Its not true.

    Posted by Pal.Mooda | January 31, 2007, 2:36 pm
  7. Nadeem ,Jinni elli yerkabak 2o y3afertak.

    Posted by Anonymous | January 31, 2007, 4:02 pm
  8. roy[...] tend[s] to leave comments that aren’t aimed at discussing posts in an intelligent manner, but to insult and make fun of Arabs & Muslims in general.

    That’s not how I see it. But it’s nice that I make a strong enough impression to be cited by name. But enough about me.

    I gotta say I’m stunned. This is the first Kabobfest post that actually criticizes Arab culture — not just corrupt leaders — without blaming Israel.

    I can’t imagine how you would think that the people who usually complain about your stupid posts would criticize this one. Our negative comments have almost always been about the ridiculous, blindered way in which you approach subjects.

    This post is about taking off the blinders. It’s an amazing turnabout. I can’t imagine what got into you, Nadeem, but I expect you’ll be gone soon enough. The Laith phenomenon, you know.

    Posted by Roy | February 1, 2007, 6:15 am
  9. Any kind of marriage can be abused to be legitimized prostitution. Look at all of the American servicemen who married poor pacific islander women who are much younger than them. Is that not like prostitution? The woman is in a bad economic situation and a man offers to take her out of that situation through marriage, which normally assumes an agreement to be open to sexual relations. Don’t disrespect the concept of muta’a marriage but blame the men who choose to exploit women sexually.
    P.S. That video was horrible and that guy is borderline insane. When he pulled out the shopping bag filled with those things I couldn’t stop laughing. If something did come out of a women’s womb like that would you really keep it?

    Posted by Jaas | February 1, 2007, 8:51 pm
  10. ya 7aram, ya 7aram. I feel so bad la hal binit. I want to kidnap her or something. Anything better than what her parents are doing to her. or whomever. hell, maybe the sheik teez is doing this shit. What a bunch of idiots. then again, it IS LBC. jackasses

    Posted by Anonymous | February 1, 2007, 9:19 pm
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