Showing posts with label sexism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexism. Show all posts

Monday, March 24, 2008

Sex Education Saudi Style

I have to thank Angry Arab for bringing me to light about this fatwa originally, but i couldn't help re-posting it. Since it is in Arabic, I will summarize: a website that specializes in fatwas on "women's issues" called Eve's World posts the following (Arabic only): if a man has anal sex with his wife without realizing it, he is forgiven as long as he ceases as soon as his wife informs him. There is a long-winded explanation given for this using chain of narratives which ends up saying that God "told the Jews" that having anal sex or sex with your wife while "she is laid on her face" will produce a cross-eyed child. However, fear not, for God did not reveal the full truth to the Jews, as anal sex does not (gasp!) result in pregnancy! This stellar sex education tip is accompanied by the ruling that a husband may "take his wife however he pleases, laying on her back or on her face, so long as his entry is in 'the front' and not 'the rear'". I find this disturbing enough to share not just because of the insertion (no pun intended) of Jews into this whole tale so as to try and somehow link them to sexual deviance - taking advantage of their being mentioned a whole lot in Surat al-Baqarah (the Cow Chapter of the Qur'an) - but also because implicitly the fatwa seems to say that (heterosexual) butt sex is ok if the husband "doesn't know" and the wife doesn't inform him! Can this also mean that a man can have sex with another (male-bodied) man as long as he thinks the latter is female and is not informed to the contrary? In addition to this, the fatwa is inadvertently reassuring curious young people who may lack safer sex knowledge that anal sex will not get you pregnant. Oh, if only they had found a Hadith that supported using condoms.

PS: In addition, I would like to thank his Beneficience the Sheikh who issued this fatwa for teaching me the term for anal sex in good fussha (classical Arabic). This will definitely be worked into my next homework composition.

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Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Strategic Media Usage: Saudi Women 1, Jordan Times 0

Some women in Saudi Arabia made a video of themselves driving on a main highway in the Kingdom. They then posted it on Youtube- 13 hours ago. CNN and BBC are mad Youtube savvy!



Across the desert (uh, literally, unless you rented a boat at the red sea and drifted north), a French national has been sentenced to three months in jail in Jordan for verbally insulting King Abdullah. I read about it here in the BBC.

In search of a more in depth story, I went to the Jordan Times homepage. Nothing! I even searched for French both today and last week. Not one word. Not a peep.

The Saudi women have done something pretty cool as far as using media strategically as a tool for social change. The Jordan Times, well, you can read more about my frustration with the Jordan Times here.

I mentioned also in my previous posts slamming the Jordan Times that I expect better from them than to ignore abuses of fundamental human rights. The reason is this: the Jordan Times has actually done plenty in the past to bring about social change in Jordan precisely through its reporting. The Jordan Times was the first newspaper in Jordan to begin covering the trials of honor crimes perpetrators. Rana Husseini attended trial after trial to simply report in the newspaper about how crimes against women (mostly, sometimes men) go unpunished and are thus allowed to continue. Due almost entirely to her reporting, Jordanian society became appalled with the way the legal system was dealing with honor crimes (because really it isn't something that normal people can accept, no matter what you've heard about scary Arab men- honor killings also happen in Brazil, Italy, and in diverse societies all over the world), and things are actually changing. I have utmost respect for Rana Husseini and the Jordan Times for printing her work.

So, this is why the lack of reporting on abuses of Filipina workers in Jordan, and on this poor bastard who's gonna sit in jail for the next three months because of some words he spoke, frustrates me to no end.

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KABOBpoll II Closes: Where are Abu Mazen's Balls?

Sadly, there was no clear winner in the poll about where Abu Mazen's testicles are. The winner, however, was "What Balls?":

In Condi's Purse
15 (19%)
In Israel's Teeth
20 (26%)
In Hamas's Hands
1 (1%)
What Balls?
24 (31%)
Using "Balls" to Denote Subjective Traits is Problematic
11 (14%)
Comfortably Tucked in Silk Gucci Boxers
20 (26%)


Votes: 76

Since "In Hamas's Hands," only got one vote, we can assume that's what Abu Mazen voted for. We all know he's a big reader on this site.

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Saturday, January 26, 2008

Filipina Workers in Jordan Update

In a new Jordan Times article, Hani Hazaimeh reports again that

According to DHAA officials, the complaints included ill-treatment by employers and being overworked, said Faouri, who believes the workers’ reasons for wanting to leave their posts were homesickness and cultural differences between Jordan and the Philippines.
The Jordan Times still fails to mention the real allegations, which include serious abuses such as non-payment of wages, physical abuse and rape.

The article is unclear as to whether the hundreds of women who sought refuge at their embassy were forced to pay a fine for terminating their contracts:

On December 9, the Philippine embassy approached the ministry seeking its assistance to waive fines for around 100 domestic helpers for violating residency regulations in order to be sent home at the expense of the embassy, said Habashneh.


“The ministry did not accept the embassy’s proposal because it would harm the interests of local domestic helper recruitment agencies with which these workers are bound by a two-year contract,” he added.

The Jordan Times appears to be laying the blame for the situation squarely upon the Filipina workers themselves for not being well-adjusted enough:
The ministry pointed out the necessity to hold orientation and awareness programmes on Jordanian culture to the Filipino workers before they are brought into the Kingdom, Habashneh added.
What about orientations for the families bringing a foreign person to work in their homes? What about putting sexual assault response services into place for women who speak Tagalog and other languages? What about the police and the Labor Ministry taking some of these allegations seriously?

Come on, Hazaimeh, Jordan Times, you're better than this!!!!!

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Friday, January 25, 2008

Philippine Government Finally Stands Up!

I was surprised and pleased to read this in the Jordan Times on Wednesday. The Philippine government has apparently said it will not approve any more work contracts for its citizens in Jordan, where a large number of Filipina women work as domestic helpers.

Domestic workers in Jordan are mainly from Indonesia, Sri Lanka, and the Philippines, and are often treated like doodoo. By the time I was ready to leave Jordan a while ago, I was so incredibly tired of the classism inherent in the society and in the way people treat each other. (see this post from last spring for one individual instance.) Other instances that my friends experienced were much more insidious and happened in much greater numbers to Americans of Asian descent. Jordan is incredibly classist, but this classism is tied to racism in a place where Asian women in the country largely fall into the category of either domestic workers or sex workers.

What this means for the women who sign contracts to come and work in Jordan, through agencies that make money off of them while simultaneously failing to protect them, is that they come to a place where they are made very, very vulnerable.

Harassment I was made aware of involved Asian American women who were harassed on the street, grabbed in cabs, and accused of stealing while shopping in an upscale department store. White women, while they may be mistaken for a Russian brought in by the trade in women, largely did not face harassment on this level. Two friends had their wallets stolen while at the gym, one white and one Asian American. The police asked the white girl about the chain of events, but repeatedly asked the Asian American girl what she was doing there and whether she was Filipina, even though she produced a passport for them. Another time, a salesperson came to the door of an Asian American girl and asked for her 'madame.' When she said, 'I am the madame,' he just walked away. These are instances of harassment of American students, not Filipina domestic workers.

I'm certain we don't have any idea of the extent of harassment and abuses of Asian women domestic workers (and sex workers) in Jordan. A foreign teacher in Jordan used to overhear his students in a boy's high school bragging about the sexual acts they had done with their family's domestic worker. The Jordan Times article doesn't mention the worser abuses. It says

The decision [of the Philippine government] was taken in light of allegations of mistreatment of Filipina domestic helpers by their Jordanian employers, according to the embassy's legal adviser, Imad Sharqawi.
The article then goes on to report in a rather self-serving, disappointing fashion:
According to Faori, three Labour Ministry committees formed to look into the allegations found that most "were illogical."
The complaints included ill-treatment by employers and being overworked, said Faori who believes the workers' real reasons for wanting to leave their posts were homesickness and cultural differences between Jordan and the Philippines.
Homesickness and cultural differences are a far cry from the non-payment of wages, physical abuse, and rape reported by the BBC article on the same topic. I personally am more apt to think that serious abuses sent about 200 Filipina women to their embassy demanding to be sent home.

I also have little sympathy for the Jordanian families who
...stand to lose thousands of dollars as a result of the suspension.
In a country where unemployment is so high, why aren't the better-off families hiring domestic workers who are Jordanian? Lord knows many could use the money. My theory is that it's about power and control: girls and women from Amman would go home to their families, who would protect them against any abuses or offenses. Foreign Asian women and girls (many are actually girls) have no such entity protecting them. They live with the family, sometimes in the kitchen, and do not have any enforced time off. (There used to be a mandatory day off for domestic workers in Jordan, which was canceled after families complained that their domestics brought home or met with undesirable individuals.) The family therefore has almost complete control.

A PS: A woman doing PhD research interviewing the domestic workers in Jordan was told by a young Filipina woman that her government had offered her an injection containing two years worth of contraception before she left her country. She intelligently refused the injection.

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Saturday, August 11, 2007

The Hijabi Cabbie: Jerusalem's Hottest Taxi Driver

Majda al-Bahr, 38, wife, and mother of five, is Jerusalem's only female taxi driver. And that is not the only item on her list of "coolness," her last name means "The Sea." If I had such a cool last name, you people wouldn't hear the end of it.


As Jerusalem's only female Muslim taxi driver, Mrs Bahr, wearing a white headscarf, cuts a distinctive figure in the city's taxi-driving community.

Mrs Bahr is an unlikely heroine breaking down the gender and religious barriers in the holy city.

Born and educated in Kuwait, Mrs Bahr, whose parents are both Palestinian, has worked as a taxi driver in the city for five years.

Previously, she worked as a cleaner in hotels and retirement homes.

Now, the mother-of-five shares the taxi with her husband and works six days a week. She normally takes Saturday off - the Jewish Sabbath - when there is very little business.

"It's very expensive in Jerusalem," she says, explaining why she first became a taxi driver, "and we needed more money."

Mrs Bahr constantly juggles the challenges of motherhood with her job.

Working the morning shift, she sometimes cuts it short to make lunch for her children.

In her conservative Muslim community, Mrs Bahr says that it is her female Muslim friends that have been her biggest champions.

"My friends think it is daring and brave to be a taxi driver," she says.

Mrs Bahr is even trying to persuade another Muslim female friend to get behind the wheel.

She also says that her male Muslim and Jewish colleagues at the local taxi office are completely supportive.

Check the article for comments by her Jewish colleagues, while they are mostly friendly, they carry more than just a hint of condescension. It seems like they are referring to her being Muslim as some sort of a disability that she had to overcome.
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In a city that is inhabited by largely conservative Muslims, and largely conservative Jews, it is hard for any female to break from the stranglehold of societal norms. Mrs. Bahr's being Muslim, no doubtedly presents her with a unique set of challenges. But the Jewish colleagues forget that she is the only female cabbie in town. They would make you believe that there are female cabbies roaming the city's streets, and being Muslim was the only hurdle she had to pass.

Oh, by the way, Arab women know how to park, and they drive cars with stick shift.

[Tarboush tip: Mary Kate]

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Friday, August 10, 2007

Top News Stories from the UAE (according to gulfnews.com)

Rania Hassan: Single
This whole article is just ridiculous... apparently anything is newsworthy in the United Arab Emirates. But the last line really speaks to the misogyny prevalent in so many Arab societies: "'...my English is not too bad,' said Rania, who is single." Make sure you catch the related story about Asma, which is the feature story on the front page of the news site, entitled, "Brother Wants Asma to Remain in New Zealand."

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